How can I express the intense interest that has sprung from my discovery of your website?? Reading what you've written...reading epiphany's work...has gotten my mind whirling in so many different directions. This concept is all so new to me, but so much of it is incredibly appealing and tugs at my soul. How can I learn more? How does one discover one's place in this lifestyle?
Your site was given to me by an other Dom in the community, i am, as
one would call me, a newcomer, a puppy, :o) seeking knowledge
and wanting to learn more about the Lifestyle and myself.
i wanted to share what was my 1st few impression of Your work .... WOW...
impressive, diligent, impartial and truthful... in a one word EXCEPTIONAL...
i was also amazed at the amount of information i was able
to find in here... on every aspect of the lifestyle, with so much details.
if i take a side the wannabe and other jerks sometime found on line...
i haveto say that i have found that the persons in this "world"
are more caring, loving, respectful, open-minded, willing to share,
diligent and honest.
This site and annexes have brought me smiles, laughs, questions,
wonders, indications of what i like, might like or completely dislike.
it was very helpful in every directions i could look.
Please Sir accept this letter of Thank You as i have not other way to
let You know how much it meant to me...
i also know that other people have posted and share on this site.. i
would like therefore to extend my gratitude to them
on 11/25/01 12:55
AM, need u@---- wrote:
My new sub and I have just found your site a few days ago. We are new
to this lifestyle and have been searching for quality guidance and information.
We truly thank you for putting together a very polished product. We
have already gained useful guidance from it, and you. I personally like
your candidness on some of the topics. From time to time, may I seek
your advice and guidance in being a good Dom?
Thank you again for such a wonderful site.
Master A, and little one
Last November you
guys sent a howdy. thought I'd peek in and see how things are going.
Still learning and growing I Hope?
on 7/17/02 need u@ --- Wrote
How nice to hear from you!
Yes...we are both still learning and growing. Things are progressing
very well. Although, at times, I still struggel just a bit when trying
to seperate the marriage from the Master. I think I am getting better
at it. little one is learning her place very well and enjoys her role
immensly serving me. She is by far a worthy sub. We visit your site
from time to time to refrsh our memory and just to see what has been
going on. It has proved most helpful, and we recommend it to those just
starting out. Thanks again for looking in on us, it is comforting to
know that there are people who care. Have a great day, and we look forward
to hearing from you again.
Master A, and little one.
i apologize for sending You this email without You knowing who i am. :D
i got Your sight from a webpage of a friend, yet i don't know
where He got it from. i wanted to say to You that i really like Your site.
it has been a lot more informative than most i have seen and it has answered
many questions that have been unanswered in the last two years. i do not
live the BDSM lifestyle. i wish i did, but my husband is more vanilla
than the ice cream. we play with very light bondage, but that is it. however,
i am very interested in the lifestyle, and have been interested for several
years. my interest has only taken me to online play in the yahoo.com chat
rooms and that place is hardly a center for learning. basically i just
wanted to let You know that i appreciate and am gratefull that there is
a real site out there that can actually help people who want information.
thank You very much.
on 1/31/01 3:28 PM,
I have been reading
your webpage for the last few days, and really liked a lot of what you
said, and the advice you gave other girls. The sections on real life
D/s really caught my attention because it pulled on my heart a bit.
I have a question for you, that I would appreciate some help with, if
you have time to assist me. The tone of submission with the girls you
wrote to fits what my submission used to feel like (warm fuzzy safe
ect). However, life has changed, and now I am in a position of being
more "the pants of the family" because my new job earns more
and demands more than "M" (I don't call him Sir or Master,
or the such, our relationship is unique in that aspect. We're more into
ageplay as well, so his title would more effectivly be Daddy, but I
didn't want to confuse you terribly). I still take care of as much of
his needs as possible (cooking, cleaning, bills and making sure he is
happy and comfortable) but I have noticed that it has turned into more
of a responsiblity that has overloaded me into being chores, no longer
a sign on my submissivness (i.e. it used to mean something special,
but now its just "I better cook or we're not eating"). This
is partially my responsibility, for thinking this way, but it is also
a problem because, except for the bedroom, "M's" dominance
has turned to dust. I still feel special and comforted, still his "little
girl" but the sparkle of feeling like I am serving has gone.
I somehow got to explain this to" M", and it is changing slowly,
but we were always more of a "bedroom D/s" couple, and I wish
for it to florish more outside of our bedroom as well. I was wondering
if you had any tips to help me point both "M" and I in the
right direction. I have already started trying to un-do my "chore"
mindset, and am working on turning it again into the "happy-submissive"
mindset, but I am at a loss, because I can not give up my decisions
to "M". It isn't that *I* can't, its that when I ask him about
help with bills, food, heck even what undergarments he prefers, I get
"whatever you wish" back to me, and that's supposed to be
my job! (I suppose because before we met, "M" tended to be
compromising, and more "submissive" in real life, and I tended
to be more in control of situations... Kind of like reading about women
who want to be subs because at work they are some big CEO with lots
of responsibilities. Backwards.)
I'm terribly sorry if this letter is long, or hard to read, or if you
don't have time to answer it, it was just that reading your website
brought something out of me, and I would like to implement it into my
Oh yes, and if it helps, we have been together and living with each
other for almost two years, and this D/s has been a part since almost
the beginning, however this is both of our first shots at this...
It's been about
a year now. and I wondered how it is going.
Wow, that was awhile ago, wasn't it? Well things have progressed, but
some things in a totally different direction. :) Let me explain a bit.
"M" and I have started attending classes and play parties
this last, oh 4-6 months and Matt has really started to understand a
bit more about what I need from viewing others and seeing the information
given to him by a third party. I'm still craving more "playtime"
but it is improving.
On to the different direction front... We tried applying some rules
for outside of the bedroom and they just didn't work for us. I followed
the directions, he gave them out, but it didn't make him feel paticularily
Dominant nor make me feel really submissive. So we've come to the conclusion
that 24/7 just is not going to be for us. More playtime in the bedroom
helps me feel like I'm not missing out.
Also, from those classes we discovered that" M" has a craving
to bottom on occasion. And since he wanted it, I have brought out on
occasion a Top side I didn't know I had. I don't prefer to refer to
him like this as "submissive" nor me as a "Dominant"
because most of my "cravings" are still in the submitting
realm, just as most of his wants is in controlling me. And it seems
like if I make sure I play with him how he likes more often he remembers
more that I want it too! :) I'm also able to do things to him that I
would want and he *gets* that more than any lecturing, begging, ect
that I've done in the past.
We've also started playing with other people in a "swinging"
context, and some of our playmates like to take both the Dominant and
submissive roles so I'm getting a chance to be fulfilled with his blessing.
Chores still feel like chores, and I'm just having to be okay with that.
So all in all I'm
happier now, and a lot had to do with just being okay with how things
are and gently nudging for the needs/wants until I'm noticed and quite
happily taken care of. We discovered this year that" M" has
ADD so he just doesn't *think* about me wanting to play sometimes...
I remind him and get what I need mostly...
Thanks for checking back in with me. Its been nice to think back to
this year. A lot has happened and I think for the best. We also got
married this year :)
Hope you are doing well too!